The Dangers of AI and the Youth: How Parents Can Protect Kids and Teens

A recent study published by the Center for Democracy and Technology found that 1 in 5 high school students has a relationship with an AI chatbot. And this news is on the heels of a 14-year-old committing suicide following a relationship with a character on Character AI. 

As we increasingly rely on technology for asking simple and complex questions, chatbots have become a daily part of life for many families. Children and teens are turning to chatbots for more than answering questions. They are using technology for entertainment and even companionship.

The Trouble with Companion Chatbots

AI is designed to interact like humans. They learn from what we, and millions of others online, teach them through our voice or the written word. Companion chatbots utilize more advanced technology called “anthropomorphic” AI, which employs a human-like voice, personality, and conversation style. They can seem real, which can be dangerous when trusted. 

As a user engages with a companion chatbot, AI learns more about them. They can seem like a trusted friend, which is why some kids (and adults) are turning to them for companionship. In a world where people are lonelier than ever, it is not surprising that technology is taking center stage. But here’s the thing: chatbots can’t think or feel and do not care about us. They aren’t responsible for what they say and don’t check facts.

How Parents Can Help Kids and Teens

As parents, we must encourage our children to have real, safe, and nurturing relationships. This means limiting screen time and promoting sports and outdoor activities with others. It is also essential to be a source of information for kids so they are less likely to turn to AI. Here are some more recommendations for keeping your kids and teens safe.

1. Ask questions and then listen. Ask your kids and teens if they have used or know of anyone who has used chatbots for friendship or in games. Ask about the platforms they prefer to use. If your child has used chatbots, ask if you can review your child’s chats with the bot together.
2. Have an open conversation about the truths about AI and chatbots. It is crucial that children and teenagers understand that AI is not real, despite its seeming reality. Encourage human friendships, which are critical for healthy development. 
3. Ensure they understand that they should not share personal information with chatbots. Remember, chatbots are constantly learning about us through the information we provide. They know the music we listen to and the type of information we inquire about. They understand our likes and dislikes. Chatbots tell us what we want to hear by anticipating what we need to hear. They aren’t checking facts or considering our kids’ feelings, and there is no guarantee that what a person shares will remain confidential. Instead, encourage kids and teens to share with trusted friends or adults. 
4. Prioritize open, caring communication. Make dinner time a time to share, laugh, and connect. When driving your kids to school or sports, turn the radio down and engage in conversation with them about life. Be curious and non-judgmental, regardless of how challenging the topic may be. Avoid lecturing them, as this will likely cause them to tune out. And always let them know that you love them. 
5. Require AI use in shared spaces at home. This is particularly important for younger children, as it enables parents and caregivers to closely monitor their online activities. 

Your child’s health is our top priority. AI is constantly evolving, and until more safeguards are in place to protect children and teens, it is up to parents and caregivers to help kids learn how to use AI technology safely. If you have questions or concerns about this topic, please bring them up during your next appointment with your pediatric provider.